Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Objectives of our group (P.G.C.A.I)

Objectives of the group:

1) To promote Child Adoption in India to ensure that every child gets a home, who has no one to look after, with focus on domestic adoptions.

2) To build a people based platform at national level to bring together parents who have adopted a child, people who are willing to adopt a child, and anyone who is willing to spread awareness regarding Child Adoption in India.

3) To act as an interface between the common man and government bodies, adoption agencies, NGOs related to child adoption and media with reference to Child Adoption.

4) To work in close association with adoption agencies to ensure making the whole process of adoption more transparent.

5) To work on modifying the laws related to adoption to help more orphan children become legally eligible for adoption.

6) To enable a database of the prospective adoptive parents across India and to help them in the process of adoption, especially with regard to adoption procedures and pre-adoption counseling.

7) To enable implementation of adoption leave across different companies in the private sector in India.

9 comments:

Mrs PDS said...

Hi! I am a married Indian woman. I have always wanted to adopt a child only because i believe that if I can afford to have my children and give them a living, my duty would be to first give a helpless soul a better life who, by virtue of his/her already existance in the world has more right to 'a better life' than my biological children who are not yet born. And i am biased towards a girl child because I think that it is tougher surviving alone being to be a girl and keeping yourself safe from all the miseries of the world.
I am married for 2 years and would soon want to plan for a biological child and together with it I want to adopt a girl child. I am very happy to have found your website and hopeful that you can help me achieve my dream.
Can you please let me know:
1. Can I adopt while I am pregnant?
How long can the adoption process take?
2. I want to adopt an infant (2-6 months old). I want my biological child as well as my extended family to bond with the girl child from the begining. Is that possible?
3. I was based out of Delhi NCR for long but have now moved abroad on a 2 year project. I work with a leading software MNC company. Can I travel to India to adopt and have the baby come with me?

Brindha said...

Hi Mrs Pds,

Glad to hear that you are interested in adopting a child. I have just completed the formalities for adoption hence may be able to answer some of your questions.

I don't know about how the laws work with regards to being able to adopt while pregnant, but I am not sure why you would want to do that. I am saying this because any child needs your 100% concentration and you wont be able to give that in the initial 1st year of the baby if you are also pregnant. Also an adopted baby, from what I have learned need a little more commitment as she has already lost out on bonding with her mother in the initial two months which are very crucial in a child's development. It is advised that you spend 3 to 4 months bonding with your child to assure that you are there for the baby. Remember the baby has already undergone the trauma of leaving its mother first and got cared for in an institution. Then again when the baby is 3 or 4 months old, she has left the institution and come home with you - this is tremendous change and trauma if you see from the baby's perspective. Baby needs lot of caring and one on one to be able to overcome all the pain. I am not here to scare you in anyway, but want you to be realistic when you bring a baby home(whether biological or adopted).

From your 2nd question I think you want to do both since you seem to have some concern about bonding between your bio and adopted child. But experience of people say that children either bio or adopted bond very well without any issues even when there is an age difference.
To answer your question the law says that a mother can claim her baby within 2 months of abandonment. Hence yes you can adopt a baby that is 2-6 months old. Some agencies wait for 3 months.
I am sure your child will be able to bond well with your extended family and there should not be any issues as such.

There is a process for adoption and you cannot just travel to India to pick up a baby and fly back. The process is very simple and streamlined and I do not want to scare you away. But the process can take anywhere from 6 months to a couple of years. Initially you need to submit all the needed documents and the agency does what is called as 'Home Study'. This happens in your home and some agencies do talk to your neighbors to get to know more about you, your family etc. After that the waiting can take anywhere from 3 months to a year depending on your location. Couples in India are given first preference and NRI (you will be considered an NRI) will be given second preference. I hear that for NRI's its takes more than a year and sometimes they get a child that is over 6 months old. Also once the baby is identified and placed with you the legalization procedure, getting birth certificates, passports can take 6 months or more.

My humble suggestion for you is to decide if you want to have a bio child or a adopted child first. You can adopt even after you have a bio child. That way you can ensure each of your child gets needed attention and you have a great bonding with each of your child. Looks like you are very enthusiastic and want to do too many things at the same time. I am just like you and thats y I can understand your excitement. But understand that these are babies you are going to bring home and its a whole new world with them. So prioritize your things and do one thing at a time. That way it works out in the best interest of all and everyone is able to enjoy the experiences. Please feel free to email me if you want to just chat. Happy parenting!!

Brindha said...
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Brindha said...

I would highly recommend you to read books on adoption.
I recommend 'The Penguin Guide to Adoption in India' by Aloma Lobo, Jayapriya. This book is very very good and a must read for anyone thinking of adoption.
You can also read the 'Ours By Choice' online at http://www.oursbychoice.com/.

know said...

In metros and large cities, it takes years to complete adoption procedure. For eg. in West Bengal it takes 2 to 3 years to adopt a child. However there are centers in rural areas where due to lack of awareness about these centers babies are available for adoption. One such centre is in Suri from where adoption can be done in 4 to 5 months. The address is ----Suri Centre for Child Welfare, Birbhum, Sova Bazar, Rabindra Pally,P.O. Suri, Dist. Birbhum, West Bengal Ph: 9432144658.
In case you also know of such centres, please post it. It will help both, the prospective parents and the child.

Anonymous said...

Hi Brinda,

I read your comment on Child Adoption, it was great experience for me. I am also NRI, planning to adopt a child, am married now for 10months, me & my wife very much interested in this adoption for long time now. Now this is our opportuinity and time to do it. But I heard this child adoption is not very easy for NRI's and also we need to complete more than 2years to go for this process. But this 2years period is very long period for us, can you please explain us this process and method for this child adoption. If you can give us your contact details, so that my my wife can discuss with you regarding the Child Adoption process.

Thanks,
Vidhu
Bahrain

Abhijit Saha said...

Dear Sir/Madam,
I am a citizen of India, I reside at Kolkata (west Bengal). I wanted to adopt a child please suggest me the procedure to start with.
We got married in the year 2012 but still not gifted with a child. I am a teacher in a school, and my wife is a house maker.
Its my earnest request to you to suggest me the best possible way to have a baby which i call my own baby.
Please suggest me..
Eagerly waiting for your reply.

Thanks & Regards,
Abhijit

Anonymous said...

My daughter wants to adopt a baby boy ,new born to 1 month.we stay in mumbai. She is married for 10 years.how do we go about it so she can have the child as early as possible.

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